on monday, i met my cousin by coincidence while walking through this really thick crowd right outside bugis village… and we started chatting over a really disgusting, poor quality cup of chinese tea outside this lup chap looking kopitiam for 3 hours… before going for lunch and chatting another 2 more hours. hehehe power rite? i must soon proclaim myself queen of chit-chat. any contenders?

hmmmm i somehow think it wasn’t pure coincidence that made us ‘meet’. it was good though, both she and i managed to settle a few problems that had been bugging us for ages… and i learnt a lot of stuff about her regarding people and relations.

it’s just that this year, just this year alone, has got me very disillusioned by the impersonal way relationships have been working. and um… y certain pple simply are soooo haiz. so disappointed in the choices pple make. sometimes also very disappointed in myself.

but she mentioned something:

“you can like a person for his/her good characteristics but you must spot the flaws and remind yourself not to be like that. and you should not feel disappointed that you have not found out such a big flaw in your friend earlier on, because it’s not wrong to be attracted to a person’s good points first.”

with that, i felt rather consoled.

anyway, on to the story…

annie decided to visit a fortune-teller cum fengshui master her colleague had recommended, she had just broken up with her bf of 4 years, was feeling down, unsure about the future, and facing problems at work. she wanted to fengshui master to ‘improve’ her r/s with her bf. interestingly, when the fengshui master ‘calculated’ her life, she did not find any indication of a 4-yr long relationship. however, annie claimed that her and her bf were very loving. curiosity aroused, the master decided to probe further about the r/s, how it ended… etc. and it was revealed that in the 4 years, annie had never once called her bf! eventually, they had broken up because her bf, who is a staunch christian wanted to send the children to sunday school, while annie, a free-thinker, was strongly against it because she felt that sunday ought to be a family day… after the r/s ended, the ex tried to salvage it for a few months, but she did not relent. now, however, it seemed that there was a girl in hk that he was interested in and wanted to fly over to hk more often for work, and hopefully, to maintain more contact with the woman-of-interest. annie was now desperate to get her bf back.

in the course of the consultation, it was revealed that she only wanted the fengshui master to help her get her bf back. the master refused of course, since it would be akin to using ‘black magic’. a definite no-no. annie persisted… the master explained and eventually it seemed as if annie understood that fengshui, even if it were to improve r/s, did not determine exactly which r/s it would improve.

weeks later, annie persisted, begging the master to do some fengshui to help her get her bf back… the master decided to suggest a fengshui change to improve her r/s generally instead, and it came in the form of a DIY kit. (hehe interesting rite, now got DIY kits as well… want to find out more, chk out Jmine Consulting ). and guess what annie said? ‘huh… so ma fan… don’t want liao la!’

anyway, that’s not the end of the story… but eventually, the fengshui master decided not to reply her emails anymore… since she could not provide the service annie desired.

lesson no. 1:
- there’s no free lunch in this world, want something? work for it!
lesson no. 2:
- don’t take a person who loves you for granted, don’t take and not reciprocate!
lesson no. 3:
- forget about shortcuts in life! they don’t lead you to where you want to go!